Daughters-in-law

Much is written about daughters-in-law & relationship with their in-laws. The general impression is the same all over the world.There is a certain amount of distrust/dislike among them. So far as we are concerned, we have told our sons to go along the wishes of their wives vis-a-vis us.We feel we should not be the cause of discord among our sons and their wives . It has worked quite well and they are living happily. Of course all of us have stresses & strains in marital relationships but these are overcome and life goes on.We as in-laws should intervene only to restore marital happiness & cohesion among our sons & their wives without being over-bearing & imposing.For example,when we notice that a son is to break-off from his wife due to some reason or the other, we should intervene so that the marriage goes on and there is no break-up. It has to be done in the most unobtrusive way to avoid hostile reactions of one or the both. Luckily my 1st and 2nd son have daughters only. They won't face this problem. But my one son who has a son should be prepared for such an experience. I hope he will keep my advice in view in the interest of happiness of the entire family.
We should deal with daughters-in-law as daughters-in-law and not as daughters. The status of daughter-in-law is a status which invokes respect in the same way as the status of a son-in-law does in the home of his wife. We sometimes commit mistakes and start expecting the same from daughters-in-law as we expect from our daughters and problems start.