9th December

Completed morning program. Visited Babloo's office and met him. Later visited CGHS and collected medicines and applied for permission for OCT to Venita. Visited Escorts hospital for ultrasound of KUB, other blood and urine tests as also uriflow test. Venita is organizing Akhand Ramayan on 10th in the temple. Collected four flower garlands which had been paid for by her for the occasion. She spends over 3-4 hours in the morning and 3-4 hours in the evening in various activities in the temple.
Retired to sleep at 10pm.

7th & 8th December

On 7th visited Safdarjang hospital & collected endorsement of tests of Venita's eyes. OCT,Angiography of both the eyes is required to be done.Visited CGHS & collected permission for dental processes & medicines.Mr. Chistya came & handed over a new case.I have given it to Smt.Priyanka Aggarwal,Adv. of the chamber,to deal with it. The dental process has to be done by Dr.Kumar of the Precision Dental Center, Sarita Vihar,New Delhi at 4.30 pm tomorrow.On 8th Venita had to go to Gurgaon to escort Neha to the Indian Spinal Injuries Center,Vasant Kunj,New Delhi.Dr.Rehtab Kumar,orthopedic & Dr.Sriram Garg,Rheumatologist examined her & opined that she had a kind of Arthritic spondalitis.They have prescribed some medicines for a week.I had to stay back at home and worked from there.The appointment with Dr.Kumar for dental processes is postponed to 4.30 pm on 13th December.
Retired to sleep at 10.30 pm.

6th December

Completed morning program. Visited Safdarjung hospital for approval to certain eye tests of Venita.The big security arrangements were on the ground in the hospital.The wife of French President Sarcozi, Bruni was visiting. The CGHS has not upgraded its computers with the new list of hospitals and clinics as per the memorandum dated 7th October. There was a group photograph in the chamber for the new year card. Visited Mr.Swain to condole the death of his wife.
I liked the following statement of Sh.Prasanna Rajan in the latest issue of India today," The politics of Social justice has already passed the empowerment stage, and reached the enrichment stage. It is still work in progress and fallen Raja is unlikely to make any difference".
Retired to sleep at 10.30 pm.

3rd to 5th December

On 3rd visited CGHS and collected Venita's medicines.Visited SBI.KTS dropped in & asked me to join in lunch with my tiffin. I joined. Visited AIMMS along with Barun to consult Dr.Dogra.His MSM test is organized tomorrow.Dropped him at bus stand on way to Noida.On 4th Visited Balaji dental clinic.Could not undertake dental processes as the address of the Balaji dental clinic was wrongly mentioned by the CGHS. Barun could not go for tests on Friday,the 3rd December.Now it will take place on the 10th. Pravesh and Vikash rang up.On 5th Swain's wife died.She was suffering from intestinal cancer. Venita visited his house.Sh.Swain was in the policy division as PA to AIG(P),my staff officer when I was JD policy.
I saw a news report in the Times of India dated 5th December. It enumerated different reasons to prove that Delhi was far from being a world class city. Some of the reasons are stated below :
1. Everyday life is chaotic and on the edge.
2. Traffic bottelnecks, power cuts, water shortages in summer are common.
3. The deficit is not only for the physical infrastructure, it extends to school admissions, health care and basic need, that is, security.
Retired to sleep at 10.30 pm.

2nd December

Completed morning program.Visited Dr.AK Agarwal.He endorsed Venita's previous medicines for another 4 months and increased the potency of one drug.Collected approval from CGHS for my dental processes.Dropped Venita at Dilli Hat.Picked her up at about 3pm & met Bablu on way home.Reached Vikaspuri at about 5.30pm.Bhawna & Rashmi rang up. Talked to Barun about his appointment with Dr. Dogra on 4th Dec.I will try to be present along with Barun if possible.
Retired to sleep at 10.45pm.

1st December

Completed morning program.Today is the birthday of Bablu.Wished him in the morning. He was jogging at that time. Venita visited him and participated in the celebration. I could not go. She also visited Silku's house to look up Khyati & Alenah.Venita dropped me in my chamber and went to Gurgaon. Discussed a new case with Raj. Took an easy cab back home.It charged a sum of Rs.20/- per kilometer. The total fare was Rs.520/-. Earlier it used to be around Rs.255/-. Neha sent me cake which was delicious. Retired to sleep at 11pm.

Daughters-in-law

Much is written about daughters-in-law & relationship with their in-laws. The general impression is the same all over the world.There is a certain amount of distrust/dislike among them. So far as we are concerned, we have told our sons to go along the wishes of their wives vis-a-vis us.We feel we should not be the cause of discord among our sons and their wives . It has worked quite well and they are living happily. Of course all of us have stresses & strains in marital relationships but these are overcome and life goes on.We as in-laws should intervene only to restore marital happiness & cohesion among our sons & their wives without being over-bearing & imposing.For example,when we notice that a son is to break-off from his wife due to some reason or the other, we should intervene so that the marriage goes on and there is no break-up. It has to be done in the most unobtrusive way to avoid hostile reactions of one or the both. Luckily my 1st and 2nd son have daughters only. They won't face this problem. But my one son who has a son should be prepared for such an experience. I hope he will keep my advice in view in the interest of happiness of the entire family.
We should deal with daughters-in-law as daughters-in-law and not as daughters. The status of daughter-in-law is a status which invokes respect in the same way as the status of a son-in-law does in the home of his wife. We sometimes commit mistakes and start expecting the same from daughters-in-law as we expect from our daughters and problems start.

30th November

On 30th collected Venita's investigation reports from City X-ray,Tilak Nagar.Sent Will/Wish to Pilku,Silku and Bablu for their comments yesterday.None has reacted so far.I wished happy birthday to Bablu on 1st December,2010 & inquired of the Will/Wish.He had not yet seen them.I told him to go through & let me have his reaction.As far as Bablu is concerned,I think he should endorse the Will as it is tilted in his favor.Parmarth Niketan informed that the trip to Mansarovar-Kailash is likely to go in 2012 and not in 2011.I requested them to consider and include us in the trip in 2012.On way back from office visited Hanuman temple on Vinay Marg in Chanakyapuri, where I used to visit on a regular basis on way back from the walk in Nehru Park.
Retired to sleep at 10.30pm.

24th to 29th November.

On 24th visited IIFT at Pragati Maidan. I had dropped Venita there in the forenoon. I joined her at about 3.30 pm. Lot of people, mainly of lower middle class. Hall no. 18 which housed foreign stalls was a big draw. Amitabh Thakur met in the chamber. On 25th Venita visited IITF again. I visited SBI mainly for driver's work. His LIC policy had lapsed. It was renewed. Later picked up Venita at about 4pm from the IIFT. On 26th visited Dr.Agarwal's dental clinic. But it is de-registered by the CGHS, so the permission from CGHS for dental processes there became infructuous. Visited dental clinic at Dwarka mode and Motibagh-I. None of these impressed me. On 27th Venita went for various tests as desired by Dr. AK Agarwal at City X-ray, Tilak Nagar. Thereafter she again visited IIFT 3rd time. She must have walked in the IIFT for over 10 hours during last 3 visits, including this one. Shopping is her great hobby. She never gets tired in it and forgets all her pains of the body. I stayed back at home.Heard the interview of Ratan Tata in the Walk the Talk program of NDTV. He emphasize on flexibility in policy matters. His interest is designing. After December 2012 when he quits as the Chairman of TATA Group,he wants to spend all the seven days of the week as Sundays. On 28th Sh. Bansal, a BJP office bearer, wanted me to come to the meeting of Human rights committee of which he is the new incharge. I will attend it as an invitee and not be a formal member. I am not a member of any political party and hope will never be member of any political party in future. On 29th had to go to Center for Sight for showing Venita's eyes to Dr.Talwar. Dr. Talwar suggested OCT, which is Angiography of both the eyes, to know their present condition. Visited Dental clinics at Sarita Vihar and Pashcim Vihar. I liked the one at Pashcim Vihar and will undergo dental processes there in future. Spoke to Barun, Ajju and AP Singh over phone about miscellaneous matters. Pravesh dropped in the chamber. Venita came to the chamber at about 3pm after shopping.
Retired to sleep at 10.30 pm.

19th to 23rd November

On 19th could not leave for Chandigarh as the flight was delayed and in the mean time Atiar had taken adjournment of Frigoglass case to 3rd February, 2011. I stayed at the airport from 7am to 2pm. It took lot of time to get back my checked in luggage. Sh. Sanjaya Sahu could go early as he had not checked in any luggage. Visited SBI. While on way to the airport, traffic was very slow as half the road in the Delhi Cantonment area had been blocked by the movement of heavy armored Army vehicles. For a moment I thought I would miss the flight. But I could reach the airport at about 7am. On 20th watched the Indo-kiwis 3rd test match at Nagpur for quite sometime. The engagement of Kate Middleton and Prince William is much in all the channels. The celebrity cult not also bugs us it equally bugs Europeans. I find there is no relation between my work and pleasantness of thoughts. I have to introspect to find out the truth about it and the work which should suit my thoughts. On 21st we were to have lunch in Hyt and Regency. But I did not feel like going out and wished to relax at home. I informed Pravesh about it. On 22nd visited CGHS. The CMO did not give permission for metal crown to one of my teeth. He said it was not permissible. I said I would produce the circular permitting the same next day. Amitabh Thakur met me in the chamber. Visited Delhi Golf club for a cup of coffee with Sh. AP Singh. Attended wedding of VP Singh's daughter. On 23rd visited SBI and made the PPO up to date. Surprisingly no deduction is made from the account of driver Thapa for the premium due in October-November. This is a deficiency in service and I will take it up with the AGM, SBI.
Retired to sleep at 10pm.