1st to 9th June

Quite a few calls came inquiring about the health of Venita.On 2nd left for Allahabad to participate in the 13th day ceremonies of my mother-in-law along with Venita by Prayagraj. The train was late by about an hour when it reached Allahabad on 3rd. The detailed ceremonies took place on 3rd.On reaching her house I stood for a couple of minutes before her photograph and offered some flowers. Met all her 3 sons and gave each of them a warm hug. I could not stop a sigh from my throat when I hugged them. All her three daughters were there and two of her sons-in-law (Me & Pramod). Four of her grand children were present,three from the daughters side and one from her sons side. Devika,grand daughter,flew from Mumbai to join in the ceremony. She has another two grand daughters.Misty could not come as she is studying in UK. Chottu also could not come due to unavoidable reasons. Daughters and grand daughters love more.Two of her grand daughters-in-law had also come.Detailed Puja was done and gifts given to 13 Brahmans including the wife of the head Pundit. Their feet were washed by the sons and they were fed too.All the Gods were invoked to give peace to the departed soul. As per the tradition of the Hindu families in India, the mantle of management of the family affairs has now fallen on the head of Arun who is the eldest son. Everyone in the family, sisters, brothers,did Tilak heralding he [Arun]is now the head of the family and will guide all.Venita gave a token amount of Rs. 1001/- on the occasion to him. To the sons-in-law of the family he is a virtual father-in-law and mother-in-law,the two in one.I have written in my will that no such ceremonies be done after my death and that I should be cremated in electric crematorium. During the day after the ceremonies and lunch I felt quite uncomfortable due to heat and a weak air conditioner and a fan which moved very fast but did not give air.I am now allergic to extreme heat and extreme cold. I don't know why. May be it is the side effect of Angioplasty which I underwent in 2004.In the evening there was a Bhajan Sandya followed by dinner(considered as prasad from the deceased). But the same were disturbed due to dust storm. Had dinner and left for the railway station at 8.45 pm. The train started on time. Arrived New Delhi on 4th at 8 am. Took Venita to Center for Sight in the afternoon. Again there is deterioration in her right eye. Dr. Dinesh Talwar prescribed Avastin injection, which is quite painful and costs over Rs.15,000. I think that deterioration took place due to her high sugar level, stress and pneumonia. On 5th noted the following lines from the write up of Dilip Bob published in India Today dated 7th June 2010( we receive post dated magazines) at page 22 under caption "India's Trust Deficit"..."....we prefer safe & conventional over risk-taking and out of the box thinkers or doers....Ratan Tata, Murthy,Premji run perhaps most respected companies but are hardly adventurous types. In contrast in USA Apple's Steve Jobs, Warren Buffet, Sarah Palin - innovator, risk taker, legendary minister & maverick politicians are in the top five."...."We like our role models to be plain vanilla rather than risk laden chocolates, family man who dress conventionally and rarely appear in public as opposed to those who reflect ostentatious living. To me the bottom line is that most Indians are still stuck in Hindu rate of growth mind set, where baby steps are preferable to audacious leaps of ambition and endeavor.Trust me on that".I agree with Bob.
On 6th RN Bharadwaj met. His blood pressure was 150/130. I don't know how could he stand at that pressure. I am sure he was telling a lie. Read India Today tiger issue. FIFA world cup starts on 11th. KTS and Vikas are going to South Africa. It is the world's biggest sports event once in 4 years. Had Chinese food from Yo China. On 8th visited AIIMS and showed Venita to Dr. Sandeep Guleria.He suggested biopsy by ultrasound guided FNAC . We got the appointment in AIIMS with the help of Rashmi. Wished Riya a Happy birthday. She is at her Nana's place. A thought came into mind that instincts govern us most. Let the reason govern us now for next 10 years atleast and after that too to the 'last syllable of recorded time'. DDA men came and recorded the violations in our block. Some irregular additions to our flats were seen by them. In fact I have already stated in the last meeting of the executive committee of the society that if any violation is done by me I may be informed so that I can remove it. On 9th Chistya came and we discussed his cases, handled by us.